Every relationship starts off the same. Its great! You get the nervousness, shyness, giggles, smiles, butterflies, an always getting the complements. I just wonder why it don't stay that way...
Once your in the relationship for a few months you start to see the real person come out, sometimes sooner. We all know that all that nice guy at the beginning don't stay forever. The more we spend time together it just shows us how we really are. We move in with each other an then a few months we start to aggravate each other, wondering where they're going, when they'll be back etc. Us girls love to be with our man almost seems like 24/7. If your man wants to go out with their friends, we want to go too. If you want to stay home and watch movies you want your man there with you, an when us girls cook we want to show that we make good meals for our man.and to make them feel special, we dress up to look good and so you'll complement us like you did in the beginning. The guys are like the girls, they want to know they look good. It makes them feel good just like it does us. Cooking on the grill is their talent. As they say " MEN DO THE GRILLING AN WOMEN IN THE KITCHEN." Makes them feel in charge, to hear how good them did; Just like us girls.
Let talk about the Good things about our relationship..
We love the beginning for sure, that's when we feel amazing an things are great. We have an amazing boyfriend that turns into fiance, into husband who does an says all the right things, Its like we couldn't ask for nothing better. When the man buys you dinner, flowers, presents, everything you want, he's the man you want right? Not quite true, Yes we love all of that and want a man like that, but real woman don't really worry about that stuff just for her man to show that he loves her an shes the only one, all eyes on her, treats her like there's no other girl for him, says he loves her all the time, kisses her, hugs her, and makes her feel good. Guys want that to just don't show it like we do. So make sure you show then how u would want to be felt.
Bad things in are relationship...
Everyone argues an fights w/ each other, not everything is perfect. Some fights are over dumb things that are so little that shouldn't really be arguing about, but some peoples relationships change for the worst. It starts off the same as everyone else, the best thing in the world. You fall in love an nothing could change it, but then again you find out who they are an how they changed. Some become controlling or become controlled. Physical abuse is something you want to leave asap. Once it starts it only gets worse. The arguing get worse, then that can lead to pushing, slapping, spitting, punching, kicking, pulling hair, dragging, throwing, choking, locking people in rooms an even more, where it can lead to DEATH. Then its to late. I have a question for people who go through this, I hear it all the time I LOVE HIM/HER. How can you love to get beat? That's not love.. love has no physical pain, love is someone who would never lay their hand on you or allow anyone else to, to keep you safe from danger, an make you feel safe. Someone you can trust to be with, an not be scared! An if you have kids with that person, your kids should never see something like that.That should be your number one reason to leave. Your kids come first before any relationship. No matter if its you baby mamma/daddy. You gotta get away from that before something happens to you or your kids.
For people who go through this/ has; Please comment so someone can answer my questions and how love can be so blind an painful for others. Who ever wants to just comment please do so.
Love is a blind thing. When your so caught up in falling in love with love, that your willing to risk everything to keep it, no matter how bad you get treated. People don't realize that they don't deserve it and when they do it's usually too late. It's something that is unexplainable. It's something we can't tell people to leave unless they want to get out. It's like the other person has a hold of them, like an addiction they can't get over. So instead of feigning for it they continue to use it until they are so far in they can't get out. Those people just want love because of their past or just because they feel like that's the only person they will ever get. It's a sad thing.
ReplyDeleteWell for the girls I do think they know they don't deserve it, they just scared to leave cause they feel like they don't have anyone else although they do. Or to scared to leave cause they don't know what will happen if they do. And as you said feel like they cant get no one else, but again you would really want to risk you life for a guy who treats you like trash? May end up killing you cause they don't know their own strength? They might say they love you but that is not love. That's either they're scared that you gonna leave them cause their jealous an want you to be scared to leave them. But right to that point when they start to beat their girl them girls should open their eyes an know that that is NOT A MAN! That's a boy who needs to grow up!
ReplyDeleteAs for women they shouldn't lay their hands on a man neither. To me it seems like a girl who gets a man knows that he wont touch her no matter what so the girl take advantage an treats that person wrong. Them guys fall in love too but should never be with a girl who wants to beat on their man. Yes guys are stronger an they can hold them back from doing it but why should they have to?
All I'm saying is if you want to be with someone who does this an you say they can change, then you need to go to couples counseling. If that other person don't want to then you NEED TO LEAVE! Find someone who will treat you right an appreciate who you are and love you the same way you love them.
They all seem to be willing to risk their life for trash! Your right guys do get physically abused and they have no reason to stay but it depends on the person and their past. They won't leave unless a better opportunity presents itself and sometimes even thats not enough.
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